We know how to make a marriage work. We've been married for 8 years, while it may not hold as much prestige as say 25 years, it is an accomplishment nonetheless. In the 8 years we've been married, we have learned a lot about each other: what works and what doesn't, what makes us distant from each other and what brings us together.We watched last week's State of the Union Address. Historically, Democrats sit on one side and Republicans sit on another; it's apparent when the sides disagree with one another. What was unique about this last address was that the two parties sat amongst one another; the visual representation was encouraging. At times, marriage may seem like a State of the Union with each partner sitting on opposite sides, but there are ways to bring both sides together.
Tips to make your marriage work:
- Celebrate the here and now. We can get caught up in how we want our future, that we overlook what is happening in the present. Enjoy one another and embrace the present moment.
- Be deliberate in communicating to each other. You cannot not communicate. You are always sending a message. Make sure your message is sent and received in a way to add to your relationship.
- Acknowledge that you both are human; humans make mistakes and have feelings. You may hold your partner to a higher standard, but don't let that high standard get in the way of your relationship.
- Only in movies do characters live happily ever after without working at it. Marriage is work. Like anything else good in life, you have to work for it. Marriage is one of those things that requires investment, dedication, and attention.
- Like two polarizing parties, partners may not agree with one another on every issue. Although you may not agree, you can be respectful.
