How to make your marriage work

We know how to make a marriage work. We've been married for 8 years, while it may not hold as much prestige as say 25 years, it is an accomplishment nonetheless. In the 8 years we've been married, we have learned a lot about each other: what works and what doesn't, what makes us distant from each other and what brings us together.

We watched last week's State of the Union Address. Historically, Democrats sit on one side and Republicans sit on another; it's apparent when the sides disagree with one another. What was unique about this last address was that the two parties sat amongst one another; the visual representation was encouraging. At times, marriage may seem like a State of the Union with each partner sitting on opposite sides, but there are ways to bring both sides together.

Tips to make your marriage work:

It's time to celebrate!

As you may know, not only do we provide therapy services, our primary jobs are teaching in higher education. We moved to Charlotte at the beginning of 2009 to take two faculty positions and a clinic director position in the marriage and family therapy (MFT) program at Pfeiffer University, Charlotte. One of the draws for us was that the MFT program was working on becoming COAMFTE Accredited.

(left to right) Drs. Bitar, Drew, Wong, and Wilkie-McHale

It's official! The program that we have worked so hard for has earned the COAMFTE Accreditation! Pfeiffer University has sent out a press release congratulating our program for achieving such a high honor and status. Our MFT program is 1 out of only 3 in North Carolina and 1 out of 110 in the entire United States. As you can tell, we are pretty proud of being part of this grand achievement!

Ways to combat your fear of change

Who likes change? Trust me, I'm not a huge fan. I am perfectly content once I get into a groove and I am happy for things to roll along...

Life is one of those things where change is inevitable. In all the discomfort that one experiences because of change, I am still grateful for the opportunity to change. There are many moments in our life when we need change. For instance, after evaluating our business and our vision we recognized that as our business needs have evolved so must our business. I was hesitant about this change and I'm still experiencing some discomfort, but at the end of the day I know we are moving in the right direction.

How about you? Where do you need to make changes in your life or relationships? We hope the following 5 tips to combat your fear of change are helpful as you take another step towards to where you want to be.

How to find an effective therapist

Perhaps you seek greater intimacy with your partner or are looking for ways to increase feelings of happiness...now what? Who's going to help you along the way? Working with a qualified professional to reach personal goals is a growing trend for many individuals, couples, and families.

Finding an effective therapist is an important step in the overall therapy process. However, looking for a therapist to work with you can be tricky. If you are going to share personal information about yourself, you want to build a trustworthy relationship, right?

Educate yourself on who you are going to work with by keeping the following 5 things in mind.

Talking to your child about tragedy

With the latest tragedy occurring in Tucson, Arizona, it is a reminder of how loss can occur at any moment. Regardless of the tragic event, whether it be a shooting, a natural disaster, or an act of terror, the result can be devastating and confusing for everyone at every age. 

As adults, we can easily become overwhelmed with grief and sadness. How are children supposed to cope with such feelings that tragedy evokes? Children can become confused, fearful, and anxious when listening about or witnessing a tragic event. The following list focuses on ways to talk with your child about tragedy.